A
new year is the time for a new approach to work!
January,
2010
By Craig Nathanson - The Vocational Coach™
Are you over 40?
Good. Then you won't need permission from your parents to read
this article. If you are under 40, I give you permission now!
I would guess if you are over 40 you have begun to question
your life and your work. Good. This is normal and healthy. Perhaps
you have also started to question your contributions to society.
Perhaps your accomplishments for this period of your life have
not reached up to your internal or external expectations. That’s
ok. Life tends to get in the way as we are making plans. And,
this is the right time to deal with the disparity between where
you are and where you expected to be in your life. This is important
now so you can change your internal expectations to the one
that suit you better at this point of your life. This can be
a magical process. Do you experience sometimes that you are
no longer young? This can generate an awareness of who you are,
what you have done and where you might be going. It’s
normal from time to time now to sense a recognition of your
own mortality as this can drive new healthy change. This is
an invaluable time to ask yourself key questions around what
is most important and whether your lifestyle aligned to your
values and sense of identity.
Do you love your work?
If your answer is no, you are not alone. Most people don’t
find meaning in their work. Many people afraid of failure continue
to work harder at jobs which have no meaning. This overemphasis
on productivity and sense of doing things which are not personally
rewarding causes their inner conflict.
Stop doing what didn't work before
This is the most important lesson to learn from. For example,
don’t go back to jobs which didn’t provide joy or
meaning. Don't go back to jobs which you didn’t enjoy
or lowered your self-esteem. Don’t go back to jobs which
you didn’t feel made a difference to yourself or others.
For sure don’t go back to jobs JUST for the money as this
has a way of catching up to you. You will spend the money you
earn faster than you can earn it and then the emptiness of the
work will set in.
Try something completely new!
This usually requires risk, courage, and an openness to change
in one’s life. Why not? What have you got to lose or gain?
What could you do which would be completely different with regards
to your work? What small steps might you take now to get started?
Become an expert at something you enjoy
What can you become an expert at? Being really good at one
thing vs. average at many things can raise self-esteem and give
one especially those over 40 a greater sense of self and contribution
in the world.
Make a product or service and sell it to at least one person
This is not just for fun. Even if your goal is to work for
someone else, the process of thinking through what you could
make as a product or service and then selling this to just one
other person can create even more possibilities in your life
and work.
Learn from others
The world of learning is unlimited. For each idea which you
want to pursue you will find many people already doing this.
Within seconds you have the world’s knowledge to pursue
new learning and new ideas.
What are your first five steps now?
Let me help. Decide what you want to change in your life and
work now. Define WHY you want to change. Define how your life
will be different if you do change. Define what your life will
be like if you don’t change. Take one action now which
will start to build new habits.
Take a new approach for the New Year to your work
Why not? It might just be the right prescription for a healthier
and happier life.
I’ll be cheering you on as you go-Craig Nathanson and
Happy New Year-2010!
Craig Nathanson is the author of "How
to find the RIGHT work during challenging times: A new approach
to your life and work after 40" and is
a coaching expert who works with people over forty.
Visit Craig’s online community at http://www.thevocationalcoach.com
where you can take a class, get more ideas through Craig Nathanson’s
books and CD’s, get some private coaching over the phone
or using skype and webcam and in Craig’s office, or read
other stories of mid-life change and renewal.
Craig lives and works in Petaluma, California. His office
is located at P.O Box 2823, Petaluma Ca, 94953. You can reach
him at 707-775-4020 or at craig@thevocationalcoach.com.
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